Often times, when I saw it appropriate I cracked borderline off-color jokes with male customers and did "accidental" boobie brush against them. I didn't hate it or despised myself for doing it-I did it in order to earn a better tip. And it worked!
“A woman who embodies the combination of power and femininity bears the brunt of the scorn with which powerful women are treated by mainstream society: where a man is assertive, a woman is aggressive, where a man is effective leader, a woman is pushy or nag; where a man speaks his mind, a woman is bitchy.
Because of the persistent belief that power is somehow inherently masculine, a woman who openly and proudly combines the traditional signifies of both femininity and power strongly challenges accepted gender roles”.